Today’s blog post is a guest post from Sarah. Sarah blogs over at Life in a Break Down and UK Bloggers Sarah shares her journey with mental health and how blogging has helped her. Take it away Sarah…


I’ve had mental health issues for as long as I can remember. In year 6, I thought my peers had implanted things in my head to read my thoughts and dissociation was something I was good friends with- after all, I had sat in the bathroom masking my sobs with the bath taps while I wondered why I was me as my body felt a different being to my soul from very early in primary school.

However, I kept this all to myself, I knew it wasn’t normal and truly believed that if I told someone about the differences in my thought patterns I would be abandoned by my parents; an issue that stemmed from my adoption and the teaching there is no love like a mother’s. As my young mind couldn’t comprehend that, that love was the reason I was put up for adoption.

In my teens I was admitted to hospital for almost a year, something neither my doctors, parents or myself are ever sure helped me or not, but it did keep me safe.

Early in my twenties I had started to pull my life together, after a spate of abusive relationships I had my own flat, just me and my dog and I had started Open University studying criminology and psychology and I was working as a volunteer at the local Wildlife Trust both as a youth ranger and helping with school visits. I felt like while my life isn’t what I had always dreamed off, I was starting in the right direction.

Then I got swine flu, I’m not one to get flu unless a nasty strain is around and then it’s like I have a big beacon on my head saying yes I must become ill with you! My swine flu gave me a kick from the word go, I should have been going on holiday with my birth mother but as the doctors confirmed it was swine flu I, of course, couldn’t fly. It would only get worse from there. I found it hard to regain energy and my pain levels were high. This meant I couldn’t carry on at the Wildlife Trust, my brain became overly foggy and my studies were taken away as I couldn’t concentrate.

During this period before it got too bad I did manage to pass my driving test and met my other half, but with the loss of so much that I had held onto as normal one again I fell into depression. When I was finally diagnosed as having Myalgic Encephalopathy (ME) and Fibromyalgia, while glad to have a reason, I also gave up on life. After all, what was the point if it was just one thing after another?

After a while of having to look after me daily while working, my partner had had enough and told me to sort things out or he would have to leave. I think when I told him my idea of sorting myself out was to set up a blog he thought I was probably a little crazy. However, neither of us would expect how that one decision, seven years ago would come to change both of our lives.

Of course, I’m not here to tell you blogging is a cure, that would be silly. I still suffer with my mental health, I still have high pain levels and I still suffer from calling red, blue. However, for the first time since I was in my teens, I began to earn my own money. Yes, last April I took the step to come off ESA after 14 years on benefits and live on the money I am able to create from my blog, and it has been the best confidence boost for me. I feel like I am earning my own way, I am making a difference in some small way, hopefully by even just telling this story.

I guess what I want you to know is that poor mental and physical health doesn’t always have to be the end, sometimes just taking what could be a silly step can make all the difference. It could change your life like it has mine. Perhaps in a few years’ time, I will be able to read your story, of how “insert whatever action” helped you.

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4 thoughts on “How Blogging Changed My Life and Saved Me

  • July 3, 2018 at 12:03 pm

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. I’m glad that despite your struggles and experiences, you’re now in a place where you get to earn your own income and be your own boss. People with mental health or chronic illness/pain encounter so much madness when they are employed. It can be such a nightmare! In turn, you’re blessing us by sharing all your knowledge and wisdom so we get to learn from you also.

  • July 10, 2018 at 9:43 pm

    very inspiring, and moving that you have had issues going so far back, hindsight is wonderful but you do not appreciate at the time the rut/hole you are in.
    Sadly for other not everybody finds the inner strength you have and mental health is still so frowned upon by so many in society who believe in the good old fashioned “pull yourself together”.
    Nice to read your story.

  • July 11, 2018 at 8:57 am

    This has touched a nerve with me, my Daughter became ill at 12 at the time we did not realise she had Glandular Fever, but this led to her becomming diagnosed with ME and Fibromyalgia she is 14 now and still suffering, I do worry about her future but I do cherish hearing from those who can bring positives out of this horrible illness.

  • August 16, 2018 at 7:30 pm

    Thank you Sarah! I, too, live with chronic mental illness (MDD, GAD, TRD and most recently Borderline Personality Disorder). Then along came Chronic Pain. Now I know what it is like to live with, not only what feels like a broken emotional “control system”, but also a broken body. Your comments provide hope that things can get better… based on reality not just on someone telling me to ” be more positive “and the ridiculous suggestion of pain acceptance. Learning about Borderline personality disorder and what I had always thought was one of the more difficult to treat types of mental illness has certainly become my latest challenge. I think I have to learn that those around me are never going to even get a glimpse of what it’s like to be me, so I’m on here looking for those who do; those who suffer from being unable to sleep at night from anxiety, missing out on activities because of pain, and crying because they feel like a foundering ship lost at sea. I’m choosing to look at this blog as a port in the storm. Looking for shipmates.


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